It is interesting how evolution can change a girl’s life in five years. Five years back a enthusiastic patriotic student with goals to know the world and to be known to the world through her writings and opinion can totally loose herself in motherhood and household duties. The goals of life change as do the priorities:
Before marriage there was a world to explore, places to visit, institutions that she wanted to fix and clean
After marriage there is a home to explore, relatives to visit, cupboards that need fixing and cleaning
Before: need a break bunk any class but make sure the teacher do not find out
After: need a break Watch “Melissa and Joey” or how I met your mother while supervising maid doing chores but make sure Mother In Law don’t find out
Before: Motherhood seemed like comfy blanket that can be hugged when needed but no one certainly wants it to wrap it around neck 24/7
After: Motherhood is like holding string of a very delicate puppet you have to make it move eat bath and hands are caught up in those strings 24/7
It’s not fait to say that life after marriage is not happy at all but the key to happiness is Making your own decisions and selecting your preferences. The same chores can be fun and interesting if you have made your own decision to do. If someone has imposed them on you then your responsibilities become your duties and they lose all the excitement.
For those ladies who do not have the complete decision making authority and they have to put aside their dreams and hobbies to bigger responsibilities of childcare the advise is don’t leave yourself. Give a particular amount of time to any creative activity that gives you satisfaction and sense of achievement. It can be anything, cooking, designing, painting, playing, decorating your home, writing a book or creating a BLOG the way I did. And remember if you had all that talent five years back you still got it you just needs to scrape the rust and dust hiding it.
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